Bhagavad Gita 2.71 · Krishna
Not mine, not me
विहाय कामान्यः सर्वान्पुमांश्चरति निःस्पृहः।
निर्ममो निरहङ्कारः स शान्तिमधिगच्छति॥
vihāya kāmānyaḥ sarvānpumāṃścarati niḥspṛhaḥnirmamo nirahaṅkāraḥ sa śāntimadhigacchati
The one who leaves all cravings behind and lives free of longing, without mine and without me, finds peace.
What it means
Krishna names the last two knots. Nirmama, without mine. Nirahankara, without the inflated me. The peaceful person still owns things and still has a self. But they don't cling to possessions or build their identity on them. Free of craving, mine and me, they walk lightly, and peace follows.
The story
Arjuna's grief has been full of mine. My grandfather, my teacher, my family, my wrongdoing. Krishna gently loosens that grip, not by loving less, but by loving without clutching.
In your life
Picture a parent watching their grown child move abroad, loving them fully, not holding on. That's love without mine. Notice one place today where you're clutching. Loosen your grip a little.
Love fully. Clutch nothing.